Relationship

Like its pan, like its cover.

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Among various factors such as spending time, getting to know each other and shared same values&understanding, understanding own personality is crucial before one embarks on the journey of love. The counterpart can promise taking care and taking responsibility for the future to come, but it does not really mean that another person should care free of taking own care and taking responsibility imposed in life!

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Teens should not define "marriage as escaping from boredom". Responsibilities always follow; therefore, don't ever think they can enjoy the fantasy from relationship after marriage without troublesome responsibilities.

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Allow me to speak as a man in the matter of relationship: Frankly speaking, a man's eyes are stolen by the beauty and styles of a lady. At first sight, a man's heart is surely captured by the beauty and styles. However, considering long-term relationship, men will compromise the beauty and styles of a lady to long-term, sustainable foundation-which is attitude, honesty and mutual understanding. That said,  an individual's perception-based on living environment, traditions, religion and educational level-, self-disciplines and social experiences are pivotal BEFORE marriage.

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Sometimes people are shy or embarrassed to acknowledge the weakness. It's people's natural instinct! In this light, it's proven wise not to "drop fuel on the burning fire", which means that attacking on people's weakness will not yield positive result of transformation, but the sharp opposite. Practically, as long as a person diligently works out to fix his/her weakness silently or openly, there should have encouragement in the form of "soft support or motivation".

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Everyone is unique-you can give and take; you can compromise. BUT, you can’t let yourself loose! These points are fundamental in relationship.

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 In Reference to MARRIAGE:

"Nobody can promise happiness to anyone, but you. It largely depends on how you perceive, appreciate and get along."

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It's somewhat stressful or even coercive if perfection is steadfastly demanded for relationship; it's rather practical if the best understanding&respecting of each other is on top of the agenda in this matter.

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Inspirations by Sudhir Krishnan (Repost)

Many of the issues we have in relationships arise thanks to not understanding and respecting our differences with others, while at the same time not appreciating how much similar we are. A greater awareness and appreciation of both the similarities and differences between ourselves and others can serve all our relationships very well ...- be it romantic, family, work, inter-culture, inter-religion or even relationships between nations. In recognizing the similarities between ourselves and others, we can develop tolerance, understanding, empathy, acceptance, compassion, and oneness. And in acknowledging the differences between ourselves and others, we can develop attraction, interest, admiration, excitement, appreciation, and respect. Both the similarities and differences between ourselves and others are thus very valuable, and with the increased awareness and appreciation of them, we can create relationships where we complete/complement the other rather than compete/conflict with the other, thereby leading to greater mutual fulfillment in all our relationships.

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Learn to choose. Learn to let the courage and confidence take over your decision and actions. Learn to take responsibilities. Nobody can promise "Happiness" to you, but you!

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Don't lose the sense of appreciation! Forget about egotism! Respect & honor is earned, not begged nor coerced! Demonstrate that you actually appreciate and honor people in the same way as much as you want to be appreciated and honored.

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